I recently attended a parenting workshop where I do a bible study and the focus was on how to accept and parent the personality differences that God uniquely designed each person to have. This resonated with me because I think we tend to respond to personality clashes by trying to change others or avoid them entirely, instead of considering how the unique strengths and weaknesses of each individual are used by God in the circumstances and situations of life.
The theory I learned at this workshop has helped me with my perspective on my family, but also I think this is useful to apply to starting a church. As we come together as a new community, we want to help people identify who they are and how God can use them. And, a necessary component of genuine community is conflict-both it’s mere presence and the resolution of it-because we grow through it.
In this journey already, I’ve seen God bring together among our group natural leaders, quiet observers, visionaries, encouragers, relationship-oriented people, and those more detail-focused. I see God providing for our needs before we even know we have them. It’s beautiful.
Wes and I have questioned ourselves at different points wondering whether we are qualified or suited for this calling God’s given us. In reality, our qualifications are not what matter, but rather our obedience. Each of us face a daily choice of whether we will respond to God’s leading in obedience or avoidance. Whether you’re considering joining us on this journey or whether you find yourself on a different journey in your life, consider the unique way that God has gifted you.
Then, consider how you can put your gifts to good use. As we help to build this community, we are not looking for a certain skill set or personality type. Instead, we are simply looking for those who feel led to join us. As I consider my recently improved perspective on my children, I see now that the very child who wears me out with his energy and liveliness is the same one who keeps our structured home fun. Likewise, another child who can be demanding and precise is also one who is great at helping to clean up and sees tasks and projects through to completion.
As I’ve seen the way God has intentionally placed the people in my home because of what they bring to the entire family team, I’m eager to learn more about who God has brought and will continue to bring into our church team with the same intentionality.